Thought for the Week

Timothy D. Stein, MFT, CSAT

July 10, 2017

No matter how wrong I am, I always agree with myself.

Trusting our own judgment and perspective can be problematic.  There are times when our thoughts are accurate and we make effective decisions.  However, there are times when our thoughts are not connected to reality but instead aligned with our fears and trauma.  Decisions we make in these moments will be significantly less effective.  How do we know when our thoughts are connected to reality or to our fears and trauma?  We ask others to be our sounding boards.  It is difficult for us to see errors in our own judgments and perceptions, but other people can see them and point them out to us.  I may agree with myself when I am wrong but others don’t.

Do I assume my judgments and perspectives are accurate?  What have the consequences been of running, unchecked with my assumptions?  What gifts await me as I learn to use my support community to check my judgments and perspectives?