Thought for the Week

Timothy D. Stein, MFT, CSAT

August 11, 2014

You can’t unboil an egg.

There are some things we can do over and fix, like taking a Mulligan in golf.  There are some things we can’t, like boiling an egg.  Once the egg is boiled, it can’t be undone.  This is especially important to remember in relationships.  Things I say and do in the relationship can never be undone.  They may eventually be worked through and possibly forgiven but they are never undone.  It is important to recognize those things that cannot be undone and think them through before acting.  It can spare those around us the experience of being hard boiled!

Do I assume I can “make up for” anything I do?  What would change if I accepted that some things I can’t make up for?  How would my choices and actions change if I thought them out before I acted?